| July can be a particularly poignant time for those navigating grief. The long, sunny days and celebratory events like Independence Day often underscore the absence of a loved one, making their loss feel more pronounced. Grief can be more intense in the summertime. Very often, bereaved people—including kids—find it hard to cope with sadness at a time when everyone else is out there having fun. It's essential to remember that grief doesn't follow a calendar, and it's okay to feel out of step with the season's joy.
Here are some tips to help anyone who is struggling with grief in summer:
1. Acknowledge your feelings and accept that it's okay to feel sad, even when everyone else seems happy. Give yourself permission to grieve.
2. Try things you enjoyed previously to see if they’re a good fit or are still too painful. If you once liked to kayak or play cards or go out for a fish fry in the summer, give it a go. You may be surprised to find that it’s comforting.
3. Go outside, if possible. A dose of sunshine and vitamin D helps people cope with stress.
4. Try your favorite activities in a new way that honors or remembers the person who died. Be intentional and purposeful. If you loved fishing with your dad who has passed away, plan a fishing trip in his memory this summer.
5. Create new traditions. If old traditions are too painful, start new ones that honor your loved one in a way that feels comfortable for you.
6. Stay Connected. Reach out to friends or support groups. Sharing your feelings can provide comfort and reduce the sense of isolation.
7. Practice Self-Care. Engage in activities that bring you peace, whether it's reading, gardening, or taking walks. Prioritize your well-being.
8. Plan Ahead and anticipate difficult days and have a plan in place to manage them, whether it involves surrounding yourself with supportive people or spending time in reflection.
9. When a child is grieving, they may feel guilty about enjoying summer break; remind them it’s OK to have fun and enjoy life after a death. It can also be helpful to stick to a routine so there’s less unstructured time in their day, and do things that bring happy memories to mind, such as making their loved one’s favorite meal.
10. Seek professional help. If grief feels overwhelming, consider talking to a counselor or therapist who can provide guidance and support.
Embracing your emotions, seeking support, and finding solace in quiet moments can help manage the waves of grief during this summer month. |
